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When it comes to your child's doctor visits, you as the parent have a crucial role to play. That's because kids—whether they're toddlers or tweens—need extra help explaining their symptoms and understanding their doctor's instructions and explanations.

It's important that you think of your relationship to your child's doctor as a partnership. You're both working toward the same goal—keeping your kiddo happy and healthy.

Here's how you can be the best partner possible to your child's doctor:

1. Write it down. Try to think through any questions or concerns you have before your child's doctor appointments—and show up with a list. Besides asking about any concerning symptoms, you can ask about your child's behavior, language development, physical milestones, nutrition, parenting or whatever else is on your mind.

Try to prioritize your list too. Starting with what you think matters most. But if you're not sure, share your list and ask the doctor where to start.

2. Request written information. You might ask the doctor to jot down their most important advice—like how often to give a medication. As a parent, you have a lot going on and these aren't details you want to forget. Your doctor may also have handouts they can give you.

3. Don't hold back. There's no wrong or silly question in a doctor's office. The only mistake you can make is not speaking up if you have a concern about your child's health. And if you don't understand your doctor's answer, keep asking questions until you do.

4. Learn how to stay in touch. Healthcare questions come up even as your little one continues to age. It's smart to know how you can easily reach your doctor's office. See if there's:

• A number you can call to speak to the doctor or another provider 24/7.
• A way to email to get a prescription refilled.
• An online portal you can use to get information about your child's medical history.

5. Find out when to connect. Talk to your doctor about what symptoms should be a concern—for example, when does a fever warrant a call to the office?

6. Know that visits aren't just about your child. What's happening in your family affects your child. Let the doctor know if you're anxious or depressed or if your family is facing a difficult issue. Doctors who treat children can often connect the whole family to helpful local resources.

7. Trust your gut. As knowledgeable as your child's doctor is, you know your child better than anyone. If something doesn't seem right with your little one, be sure to share your concern. You know what's typical for your child—and you bring that unique expertise to every doctor's appointment.

Reviewed 3/22/2024