Reviewed 12/8/2023
How to build social bonds
Having strong social connections and a sense of belonging can make life more enjoyable. It can also improve your health and well-being.
If you're missing a sense of community in your life, here are some steps you can take to start building those important connections.
MAKE OUTREACH A HABIT.
A sense of belonging and connection may not happen without consistent effort on your part. To build connections, take daily actions that make your bonds with others strong. For example, you can drop by for a visit, send a text or drop a card in the mail.
FIND YOUR BIRDS OF A FEATHER.
Connections may come easier when you share common ground. Hobby clubs, sports leagues, civic groups, book clubs and support groups are all options to consider, depending on your interests.
GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
It's never too late to learn a new skill, whether it's golfing, making pasta or playing the guitar. Trying new things can not only be a lot of fun, it can also help connect you with others who are on the same learning path.
HELP OTHERS TO HELP YOURSELF.
People who volunteer or do community service feel more connected to their communities than those who don't, according to a report from the U.S. Surgeon General. Helping out doesn't need to be formal. Lending a hand in small ways, like accepting a package for a neighbor or giving someone a ride, can also help you build connections.
Offering emotional support is another way to connect. When a struggling person needs to talk, listening is a needed skill that anyone can offer.
CLEAR ROADBLOCKS TO CONNECTION.
What keeps you from connecting with others? For some people, it's excessive use of social media and other technologies. For others, it might be health issues or busy work schedules. If you have barriers to making social connections, take steps to address them if you can.
TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR IF YOU FEEL LONELY OR ISOLATED.
Most people feel lonely once in a while, but if you feel lonely often, bring it up with your healthcare provider. Being honest about how you feel can be the first step toward feeling better.
IS IT MORE THAN ISOLATION?
Take this quick assessment to learn more about symptoms that might indicate depression.
Sources
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "How Does Social Connectedness Affect Health?" https://www.cdc.gov/emotional-wellbeing/social-connectedness/affect-health.htm.
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "The Power of Connection: How It Can Improve Our Health." https://www.cdc.gov/emotional-wellbeing/features/power-of-connection.htm.
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "Ways to Improve Social Connectedness." https://www.cdc.gov/emotional-wellbeing/social-connectedness/ways-to-improve.htm.
- National Alliance on Mental Illness. "The Importance of Community and Mental Health." https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/November-2019/The-Importance-of-Community-and-Mental-Health.
- National Institute on Aging. "Loneliness and Social Isolation—Tips for Staying Connected." https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/loneliness-and-social-isolation-tips-staying-connected.
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. "Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation: The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community." https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf.