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How to support kids during difficult times

Children who experience very stressful situations or events can have a tough time emotionally, sometimes with long-lasting effects. But your support can make a big difference. Here are six ways to help children recover and build resilience—the ability to bounce back from their struggles.

1. Offer comfort and security

Let your child know they're safe and that everything will be all right. At the same time, reassure them that it's OK to feel what they're feeling. Right now, your child may need more of your attention. A hug or a pat on the back can go a long way toward restoring their sense of security.

2. Return to a routine

Routines offer a sense of normalcy and security for kids. It can be difficult to maintain predictability during times of upheaval. But try your best to have schedules for regular meals, homework and bedtime.

3. Help your child be a kid again

Doing fun and relaxing things can help make things seem normal again. Offer ideas, like family walks or playdates with friends. Help boost your child's confidence by encouraging their participation in activities they take an interest in.

4. Help kids manage their emotions

Give kids tools they can use to manage their feelings, like sadness, anger or grief. For example, they might try deep breathing to relax when they're upset. Remind your child that they can turn to you anytime they need help.

5. Invite your child to talk about it

Let your child know it's OK to talk to you about their thoughts and feelings. You might start a conversation by sharing how you feel. (Just be sure not to share too much of your anxieties.) If your family has experienced a disaster or another traumatic event, talking about it also gives you a chance to clear up any misinformation.

6. Answer questions honestly

Children may have questions when they're worried about a difficult situation. You may not have all the answers, and that's OK. Try to maintain a reassuring tone while offering a brief, honest explanation. The fact that you are listening can be very comforting to your child.

Take care of yourself

You can help your child better when you take care of your own health. Try to eat right, exercise and get enough sleep.

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